You must learn her.
You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.
You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.
And, this is how you keep her."
COOL DATE IDEA: take a really long nap with me
Scientifically and psychologically speaking, long periods of physical contact or just closeness stimulate chemicals in the brain that promote trust. If you’ve ever slept while cuddling somebody you just met, you know how incredibly comfortable you feel with them after you wake up, as if you’ve known each other for years. So yes, a long nap together is actually the ideal date if your goal is a relationship based on trust.
Sometimes I want nothing more than to be loved.
But not in a “let me kiss you” way,
But more in a “stay with me, because I need you way”.
Sometimes I need more than your “I love you”.
Sometimes I need, “I need you.”
I need you to hold me.
Not because it’s our routine,
But because if you don’t,
I’m afraid the hands will pull me down under,
and I need you to anchor me.
I don’t need you to tell me “smile. It’ll get better.”
I need “go ahead and cry. It’s okay, to not be okay”
I need you to understand that more often than not, I won’t be okay.
That after 9 pm. I become I hopeless mess that will need constant reassurance that you love me, without having to ask for it
That when I say nothing wrong,
It will mean everything is.
That sometimes I will cry over nothing,
and I will cry over everything.
That even when I tell you to go away,
I will want nothing more than to have you stay.
I will need you to love me when I am unbearable.
I will need you to love me when I cannot love myself."